Welcome Pam Siddins, Our Newest Self-Love Ambassador
Welcome to the family, Pam Siddins, our newest Self-Love Ambassador! ❤
Sunshine Coast are you ready? Ready to step into a place of love with the guidance and support from your local Self-Lover Pam Siddins!
Pam opens her heart and bares her beautiful vulnerable side with us all, something that has been a massive challenge for her to overcome. Such magnificent beauty pours out of this special space we call vulnerability…
Take a look my loves and welcome our latest Self-Love Ambassador, Pam Siddins.
“Writing my own Bio has been a challenge. I realised over the last few weeks that I didn’t truly like to write about myself. It would mean I had to be vulnerable and let others see me. Which made me think, have I really seen myself? So how could I share a story of me? Was my story worthy enough of sharing? OMG, is this not the foundation of SELF-LOVE. Do I actually love myself enough to value my own story? It is me after all. My story.
I grew up loved. By two parents trapped in their own worlds of trying to parent and make ends meet. Really, they worked hard and loved hard. Hard with conditions. The conditions I now see were by no means intentional. They raised my brother and I based on a belief system they inherited from their parents and those before them. They tried their best and I grew up to understand that true love had many conditions attached. If you do this for me, you will be loved so much more. I developed my own coping mechanisms. If I am a good girl. Do everything right and always work on pleasing everyone, I would be loved. I see you rolling your eyes. Yes, I am a people pleaser. I spent most of my life working on never letting anyone see I couldn’t cope and that I would do anything for anyone just to see them happy, at my own expense.
I developed my own coping mechanisms. If I am a good girl. Do everything right and always work on pleasing everyone, I would be loved. I see you rolling your eyes. Yes, I am a people pleaser. I spent most of my life working on never letting anyone see I couldn’t cope and that I would do anything for anyone just to see them happy, at my own expense.
I was unhappy, suffering from an overused label of depression and no one that I knew, knew this of me. I hid it well. I never told anyone. Occasionally someone would call me out. They saw a crack in my well-rehearsed play. So, I would either avoid them, or work extra hard to prove them wrong. I was exhausted. By then I was a mum of 2 with a 3rd on the way. I was raising my boys with the same conditions of being good and you are loved so much more.
My defining moment was my mental crash. I couldn’t anymore. No more hiding. No more pretending. I understood there was more. I felt compelled to find a better way. I wanted to be that mum that could show my boys we could love ourselves. Deeply, passionately and own our own success on the coattails of self-respect, personal growth and awareness. That meant my journey to self-love had to begin. I had a dear friend open this door. I had no real concept of how deep-seated my own self-loaving was.
Most of everything I did came from guilt. I felt guilty I wasn’t good enough. I felt guilty that the others in my life weren’t happy. I felt guilty for feeling guilty.
My journey to release my self-imposed guilt ultimately lead me to my passion to help others see their own self-sabotaging patterns
Through my journey I have come to value myself for who I am, what I am. And to realise most importantly I am who I am because of where I have come from. My soul chose this body to do this earthy mission. By loving me for me I respect my soul. And as for this Bio, I know that my story is my story. I have no need to hide it. It is me loving every part of me.”
What does Self-Love mean to you?
“In so doing I get to the root of self-love. By living in duality of what the western world perceives as negative and how we expand into the positive. We learn to love ourselves. It is from recognising that grounding in the “negative” long enough to see where changes can be made we expand into a brighter fuller world full of love and happiness. Really loving who we are is embracing a sometimes “ugly” truth.
Self-love is exactly that. About self. Each and every one of us are responsible for SELF. We have to dig in and open our eyes to ourselves. Brave the storm that may unfold and enjoy the ocean of bliss that transpires.”
Why do you think it’s important for women to love who they are?
“The more we open up to ourselves we embrace our value. And from value we grow confidence to step outside ourselves. To explore new relationships, careers and passions we would never otherwise have considered possible. We become the ultimate us through self-love.”
Some things that I totally LOVE:
“I love my boys. I have 4 beautiful boys I am blessed to share this world with. I have a caring and supportive partner to help raise the boys and show them the splendour of the world. Daily I learn from them all.
I am also full of gratitude that I am able to share my passion in self-development and growth with many others. Work is not work… it is my vocation I get to relish in daily.
And there is the ocean, the sun and the cool sands under my feet. The place I go to connect and ground. I love to invigorate my soul in nature.”
Pam Siddins ❤
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“If you want to go far, go together”
Alana Arvanitis ❤
The Founder of The Self-Love Movement